The Cost of Never Slowing Down—Why Stillness Has to Be Intentional
Somewhere between the dishes, the toddler meltdowns, the voice memos I meant to reply to, and the tabs open in my brain — I forgot.
I forgot why I started this whole thing.
Why I wanted to build a business.
Why I care so much about wellness and nervous system regulation and helping moms feel like themselves again.
I forgot that she — my daughter — was the whole point.
Not the obstacle. Not the distraction.
The reason.
The week before our family vacation, I was in a frenzy trying to finish my course Stillness Within. I worked on it late into the night, squeezed writing into nap time, even started waking up anxious to get back to it. I was more impatient with my daughter. Snapped at my husband. Couldn’t sleep. Couldn’t breathe.
And here’s the kicker:
I was burning myself out… creating a product to help moms slow down.
The irony is laughable. (And also deeply real.)
Busy Happens on Autopilot
And I have to give myself a little grace because the world simply isn’t designed to help moms slow down.
It’s built to keep us going. Clicking. Swiping. Shopping. Consuming. Producing. Hustling. Numbing.
Busyness happens by default.
Stillness? That’s on purpose.
Even for us yoga and meditation teachers!
Stillness doesn’t just show up like a surprise package at the door.
It has to be chosen. Re-chosen. Over and over again.
And that’s what makes it feel so hard — and so necessary.
The Cost of Constant Go
When we never slow down, it starts to cost us:
Our presence with the people we love most
Our patience in the little moments that add up
Our peace — the deep, inner calm that we know is possible but can’t seem to reach
Our purpose — because we’re running so fast we forget where we were going in the first place
And let me tell you from experience: no amount of beach vacations or digital detoxes can fix what chronic disconnection breaks.
Real peace takes practice.
Intentional space.
Simple, daily rhythms that bring us back home to ourselves.
Choosing Stillness — Even When It's Hard
The hardest part? Sometimes we do get a moment to slow down… and we don’t use it.
We reach for our phones.
We scroll. We snack. We distract.
We choose what’s easy, not what’s healing.
I do it too.
But here’s what I’ve learned (and what I built Stillness Within to help with):
Taking care of ourselves takes discipline.
Not the harsh, rigid kind — but the kind kind.
The “I’ll take a deep breath before I react” kind.
The “I’ll pause before I post” kind.
The “I’ll stretch instead of scroll” kind.
When I do that — when I actually take care of me — I show up as the mom I want to be:
Patient
Present
Playful
Proud of how I handled the hard stuff
It Doesn’t Have to Be This Way
You don’t have to settle for survival mode.
You don’t have to hustle through motherhood with your teeth clenched.
You don’t have to wait until the next vacation to breathe again.
✨ You can build stillness into your everyday life.
✨ You can rewire your nervous system to feel safe slowing down.
✨ You can create rhythms that restore instead of deplete.
That’s exactly what I designed Stillness Within to help you do.
It’s my new course for moms who are overwhelmed, overstimulated, and ready for change — even if they only have 10 minutes a day to get started.
